If you
find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle
with
yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to
rest
in the other person's heart.
If you
find someone else in love with you and you don't love him, feel
honored
that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift
you cannot
return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.
How you
deal with love is how you deal with you, all our hearts feel the
same
pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.
If you
fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then
love
chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it
go. There
is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.
Remember
that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do
is accept
it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way
it fills
you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
Give it
back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others
who deem
it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you
can.
There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love,
they
understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places
that
will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something
that
flows to them rather than from them.
The first
blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love
cools,
they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone
who generates
love and instead become someone who seeks love.
They forget
that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be
made
to grow only by giving it away.
Remember
this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own
seasons,
and its
own reason
for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason
it into
saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away
when
it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the
heart
of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you
should
do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that
it came
to live for a moment in your life.
IF YOU
KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN.