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If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle
with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to
rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him, feel
honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift
you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you, all our hearts feel the
same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then
love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it
go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do
is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way
it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others
who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you
can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love,
they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places
that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something
that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love
cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone
who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love.

They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be
made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own
seasons, and its
own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason
it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away
when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the
heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you
should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that
it came to live for a moment in your life.